Love and Law

In the talk by Elder Dallin H. Oaks "Love and Law", he speaks about God's love and God's commandments. He says, "His choicest blessings are reserved for those who obey His laws.1 These are eternal principles that should guide parents in their love and teaching of their children." He gives a few examples where parents have situations where their wayward children are making wrong choices and what parents should do. 

The above diagram was used in Elder Kim B. Clarks talk "Building Zion Together". He says, "think of this as a map of your efforts to help your roommates and friends establish the doctrines, attitudes, and practices of Zion in their lives." We can use it to guide us with our decisions with our children. Elder Clark states, " You need to be in the zone of Zion, the zone of high love and high standards.  There are two reasons.

First, the upper right is the only zone where we are fully living the gospel.  It is the only zone where we love one another with the pure love of Christ and teach the standards of the gospel by precept and by example, the way the Savior would teach them.

Second, the upper right zone is the only zone where you can help another person establish the patterns of Zion effectively.  Look carefully at the other three zones.  In each one an important part of the gospel message is missing."